I started to get ahead of myself. Writing this blog I’m tempted to break into a run before I really get into walking:
I wrote a whole post today that was about narratives about Self-Love. What I re-learned in the writing of this post, was that there’s a whole foundation you have to build when you’re talking about these things.
Self-love is a journey
The journey is long. It’s a novel that we are the protagonist and author of. The kind of story we write is up to us. Some of us want to pretend we don’t see the pen in our hand.
But we can’t. Storytelling is in our bones. Coded into our DNA which is a story in and of itself.
The thing that I believe separates humans from other animals is the depth of the tapestry we have woven in stories. Stories that allow us to work together as no creature born of this planet before us has.
So here we go.
A lot of things we believe about reality, were determined before we were 8 years old most likely. Whether or not we are worth loving is a story we learned to tell ourselves about ourselves. We saw it reflected in the way our parents loved themselves and the way that they loved us.
As social creatures, we’re coded to learn from each other. With each other. About each other. And we determine who we are from there.
And so the next time you hear from me, I’ll be talking about one version of the story I told myself, and why.
I’d love to hear in the comments about a way you’ve decided to show love to yourself. What it is you do and why?
I’ll go first. My personal favorite rule is that I don’t do shame, and I allow myself to accept that I am capable of anything. This allows me to grow, but also to decide which things I want to move towards and away from in life without judgment of myself. I try to extend that space to others as well.
I think it’s important to remember these things, and to share them with others. My blog is a place for sharing our stories, hopefully so we can write better ones.
If you’d like to support the blog or me as a writer, here’s a link to a copy of my first book of poetry:
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